When I look down at this golden statue, may it remind me that wherever you are from, your dreams are valid.
by Beautiful acceptance speech for the glorious Ms. Lupita Nyong’o (via socialjusticeronin
We are our own dragons as well as our own heroes, and we have to rescue ourselves from ourselves.
What they knew in that moment, in every fiber of their beings, was that this Person and this Place were all they had ever longed for …and ever would.
Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose to make self-care a priority. I choose me.
When you find yourself drowning in self-hate, you have to remind yourself that you weren’t born feeling this way. That at some point in your journey, some person or experience sent you the message that there was something wrong with who you are, and you internalized those messages and took them on as your truth. But that hate isn’t yours to carry, and those judgments aren’t about you. And in the same way that you learned to think badly of yourself, you can learn to think new, self-loving and accepting thoughts. You can learn to challenge those beliefs, take away their power, and reclaim your own. It won’t be easy, and it won’t happen over night. But it is possible. And it starts when you decide that there has to be more to life than this pain you feel. It starts when you decide that you deserve to discover it.
When you are your own best friend, you don’t endlessly seek out relationships, friendships, and validation from the wrong sources because you realize that the only approval and validation you need is your own.
Light should have been enough. Would normally be enough.
Sun rays. Those long, pale fingers of an aging morning carefully lifting my eyelids like shades. Maternal. “Wake up, wake up.” But I wanted birdsong, too. I wanted to hear what the countryside had planned for herself today. And if I even factored.
You don’t have to do things perfectly for them to be meaningful and worthwhile. Whatever you manage to do or create is wonderful and important and worth sharing because it came from you. It’s a piece of your soul and an expression of your spirit, and no matter how well it’s done, it’s valuable. No matter how well you do, you’re valuable.
People everywhere, young and old, were already dreaming of heroes.
by H. G. Bissinger, from Friday Night Lights: A Town, a Team, and a Dream
. (via the-final-sentence